Welcome, I’m Ben Gair.
Since 2001, I’ve worked with people at moments where the life they’ve built no longer fits — when the old identity, story, or role has started to crack, but the next way of being hasn’t fully formed yet.
My work isn’t about fixing, motivating, or “healing” you into a better version of the same self.
It’s about exposing the unconscious scripts you’ve been living inside, dismantling what no longer belongs, and helping you reorient around what’s actually true.
I work privately and selectively, both online and in person, with people who are already capable, self-aware, and functional — but who know something deeper is misaligned beneath the surface.
This is work for those standing at a threshold:
no longer able to keep performing who they’ve been, and not yet fully living who they’re becoming.
If that’s where you are, you’re in the right place.
"Ben’s capacity to hold the space in a non-judgmental, supportive way allowed me to feel safe to express myself . So much shifted immediately and the waves of growth and learning continue to roll in. I'm so grateful to Ben for sharing his healing gifts with me."
Trudi Bannister
"His ability to read a person is quite incredible – like he knows what’s going on for you before you do, which allows him to create very unique sessions... I love the fact I know he is bringing forth what’s needed for me – rather than following an exact recipe"
Zapheria BeLl
At the Threshold
I work with people who are ready to dismantle the stories they’ve outgrown and confront what’s actually been running their life — beneath the roles, conditioning, and performed versions of self.
You don’t need fixing.
You don’t need improvement.
You need accurate contact with what’s real.
The parts of you that were hidden, suppressed, or split off weren’t mistakes.
They were survival strategies.
And at a certain point, they become the very things that limit your freedom.
So the real questions aren’t inspirational — they’re structural:
Who are you when you stop performing who you learned to be?
What roles are you still loyal to that quietly cost you your life-force?
Which beliefs or identities once protected you, but now keep you small?
What actually becomes possible when those structures are dismantled?
This work isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about removing what’s false, inherited, or outdated —
so you can live from what’s left.
If you’re standing at that edge, this is the work.
The Threshold Mirror:
A self-guided inquiry
Instead of a free call, I offer a mirror.
The Threshold Mirror is a custom self-inquiry tool designed to help you surface the unconscious patterns shaping your choices, identity, and direction right now.
Through a sequence of reflective prompts, it reveals what’s operating beneath the surface — without coaching, fixing, or interpretation.
This isn’t therapy.
It isn’t advice.
And it isn’t a replacement for working together.
It’s a way to test your willingness to look honestly at what’s running your life — before deciding what to do next.
Use it privately. Take your time.
If something real comes into focus, you’ll know what the next step is.
